12 Ways to Handle a Toxic Friend Without Saying ‘Toxic'” Toxic friendships can really bring you down, but there are ways to deal with them without using harsh labels. Parade shared tips from psychoanalyst Jordan Dann to help you navigate tricky situations. Let’s break down these 12 phrases:
- “No.” Sometimes a simple “no” is enough. You don’t always need to explain yourself.
- “I’m sorry you’re having a hard time, and it’s important to me to feel like you’re also interested in my life.” This shows empathy while also expressing your need for mutual support.
- “I’m not able to give you the kind of support you need.” You’re setting boundaries without criticizing your friend.
- “I am not available…” It’s okay to say no and stick to your boundaries, even if your friend pushes back.
- “I don’t want to speak negatively about other people.” Let your friend know what kind of conversations you’re comfortable with.
- “I have 15 minutes…” Be clear about your availability and stick to it.
- “I don’t want to do X, but I can do Y.” Offer an alternative that works for you.
- “Can we change the subject?” Redirect the conversation to something more positive.
- “I’d like to talk about our friendship. Are you open to that?” Express your feelings and needs directly.
- “I’m taking some time to focus on myself, and I won’t be able to schedule anything or respond to communication for the next month.” Sometimes you need space to prioritize yourself.
- “I need to end this friendship.” It’s okay to walk away from a relationship that isn’t healthy for you.
Remember, it’s important to communicate assertively and set boundaries while also considering your own well-being. And always remember to handle the situation with kindness and respect, both for yourself and for your friend.