Amy often hears her 11 and 12-year-old daughters using the term “pick-me girl” for a classmate. These girls want approval, especially from boys, by subtly putting others down.
Psychologist Regine Galanti says it’s tough to admit being a “pick-me girl” as it’s seen as an insult, causing a social media backlash. Galanti stresses that seeking validation externally isn’t great, and turning it into a meme worsens things.
In 2005, “pick-me girl” started from a “Grey’s Anatomy” scene. Recent social media trends mock these girls, creating exaggerated memes.
Galanti notes teens adapt to fit in during identity discovery, and labeling hurts those trying to belong. Life coach Bayu Prihandito suggests empathy, considering societal pressures.
The term is harmful, especially if girls genuinely like the activities they’re mocked for. Galanti says most seek acceptance, not to put others down.
[Unique Perspective]: Understanding “pick-me girls” sheds light on the challenges young girls face in seeking acceptance. Let’s foster empathy and support instead of perpetuating hurtful stereotypes. Credit to CNN as the source.
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