In a recent article from Parade, psychologists urge parents and grandparents to rethink how they talk to the youngest child in the family. Common phrases like “You’re the baby of the family” or “You’re spoiled” might seem harmless, but they can actually hurt a child’s development and self-esteem.
Dr. Brittany McGeehan, a licensed psychologist, explains that calling the youngest child “the baby” or “spoiled” can make them feel less mature and independent. This can affect how they see themselves and how they interact with others as they grow up.
Dr. Joel Frank, another psychologist, emphasizes that words are powerful in shaping a child’s mind. Positive language can help a child feel secure and confident, while negative comments can make them feel inadequate and anxious.
For example, instead of saying “Stop crying, you’re acting like a baby,” Dr. Frank suggests saying, “I see you’re upset, let’s talk about what’s bothering you.”
The article also highlights how comparing the youngest child to their older siblings, like saying “You should be more like your older brother or sister,” can create feelings of jealousy and inadequacy.
Dr. Nicholas Forlenza, a psychologist, suggests focusing on the child’s unique qualities instead, saying something like “I love seeing the person you are becoming.”
Parade’s article makes it clear that how we talk to children matters a lot.
Simple changes in language can make a big difference in helping the youngest child feel valued and understood, setting them up for healthier relationships and self-esteem in the future.
Credit : Parade